The pleasures of growing up in a Bong joint family! Forever surrounded by Kaku, pishi, dida, cousins, so much pampering and conversations all around, storytelling, reading out to each other. I never lacked conversations growing up, till date nothing hooks me more than a good conversation. I miss those good old days, those conversations. Most of all I miss my kaku – a master story teller, a great conversationalist, in whose room every evening would gather his friends and conversation would flow on art, literature, music, politics or football over cups of tea, moori makha, padad bajha or chop. There would be friendly banter, heated debates, enlightening dialogues with music playing in the background on the gramophone. My mom, and sometimes my pishi would heartily participate in the discussions. As a kid then I would sometimes peep in, take bite from my kaku’s plate. Though I couldn’t make sense of much of the conversation, I could feel charged atmosphere, the excitement around. Such was the magic of good conversation or Aadda!
The quintessential Bengali Aadda, that can be loosely translated as the art of conversation or discussion, probably emerged over a century ago when Bengali gentry (or bhodrolok) would congregate to discuss various issues ranging from art to politics to changing weather. Aadda, Coffee Houser Aadda, had a certain snob value about it. Prominent writers and thinkers would gather at a Coffee House talk about various existential and intellectual issues. Then there was Aadda in a drawing rooms or a living rooms, like the one in our family house. Aadda, where boys of the neighbourhood gather on a staircase or parapet (rock), called RockbajAadda, is considerably low brow. You wouldn’t want to be caught by your parents being part of RockbajAadda.
But no matter where the Aaddabaj (connoisseurs of Aadda) would gather, the spirit of Aadda, the free flow of conversation that was often intellectually stimulating, defies all definition. Usually a small group that could range from 3 to 10 people, Aadda could be dominated by one person or run into heated debates. It has been often said that these aimless Aaddas led to the downfall of Kolkata, once the intellectual capital of India. Maybe, or maybe Bengal fell from grace because Aadda lost its spirit somehow!
Aadda sessions in my kaku’s living room came to end with his untimely demise. I left home a few years after that. In college and university, we had our variants of Aadda, often literary discussion or idealistic talks about love and life ahead. Then real life happened, while struggling to fit into the real world, I did enjoy many animated conversations with my newfound friends over cups of coffee till wee hours. But people kept getting busier, drifting apart, conversations turned to long phone calls, online chats and somehow that spirit was lost. There was partying, there was pubbing and there was clubbing at the cost of a good conversation. Even families glued to their phone and social media forgot to talk.
Today, suddenly out of nowhere the world is inflicted by a novel virus that has pushed us indoors, shuts down pubs, clubs and malls. The term social distancing is suddenly in vogue. With nowhere to go we don’t have sassy pictures to post on social media, and the virus jokes and alerts are kind of getting on our nerves. While COVID is disrupting our lives, playing havoc with our schedule, maybe it’s giving us a chance to reconnect with our family and friends, revive the art of conversation. So why not use this family time as an opportunity to reclaim the magic of Aadda!
So lured are we by the glamour & glitter of the New, that we forget the Old, its goodness, its warmth, as we fly with the time
New hopes, new dreams, new aspirations, desires & ambitions lead us on to fascinating avenues & lanes
A journey so challenging & exhilarating that leaves us with little time to pause & ponder
Then, one day, when we stop to catch a breath and absentmindedly look back, the spectacle of our yesteryear’s memoirs, diaries & recollections spring back at us
The lazy days when we would listen to a play on AIR, or the exciting days when TV invaded our drawing rooms with Asiad, to be later taken over by crazy online streaming
Taking eager steps to school in Bata shoes, weighed down by Duckback school bag heavy with books, dreams and ambitions
Travelling in 2nd class, a coach full of students, heart full of aspirations, to the realm that takes us a step closer to so many dreams that whisper in our ears
Some dreams are fulfilled, some forgotten, some broken, some carelessly tossed away, adorn our path as we move along
The pride and joy of owning the first Nokia mobile phone, making the first brief call, packing in as many words in as little time, for rates were high
The arriving in life moment with the first Blackberry, replacing it with little thought with iPhone, Samsung Note and what not, for choices are many
Switching happily from DTC buses, to auto, to the proud ride in first Maruti 800
Moving on from a generation that held on to dreams, clung on romantically to a few material possessions, to a generation that’s spoilt for choice, often confused, bemused or bewildered, easily disillusioned
As we look back, time pauses for a while, to string together our forgotten or lost dreams chipped and dulled with years, new wishes and resolutions glowing with hope and yearnings, into a glittering, uneven multi-coloured necklace.
While appreciating everything and everybody in his poem Bhalo Re Bhalo (loosely translated ‘All is Good’), Sukumar Ray, one of the greatest poets and humour writers of our time concludes: “Kintu shobar chaite bhalo, pauruti aar jhola gur” (But the best bet/ Is runny jaggery and bread).
The pleasure of
dipping bread or roti in jhola gur (runny jaggery or jaggery syrup) and
enjoying the sweet, sticky flavour on a winter morning. And once the bread gets
over, dipping the finger in jhola gur and licking it, relishing it to
the last dribble. As a child jhola gur was one of my most sought-after
desserts or sweet sauce. As the days would get colder, we would wait for dad to
get a tin (container) of jhola gur from one of the near by farms. We
would sit on the dining table expectantly with a bowl waiting for mom to serve
a spoonful of jhola gur. It would be followed by hours of licking the
bowl clean, with eyes often shut and a satisfied chuckle. The happiness and
satisfaction that simple jhola gur brought into our little lives!
Then there is
round kejhur gur or nolen gur and chunks of aakher gur. We
would wait for Masi to visit from Kolkata with patali gur, very popular
in West Bengal. In Agartala, dominated by East Bengalis, jhola gur and khejur
gur were more popular. While jhola gur and khejur gur are
from made date palm (khejur) sap, tal patali is made from palm (tal)
sap and aakher gur comes from sugarcane (aakh) juice. As kids we
would love to suck little cubes of tal patali and khejur gur. The heavenly
taste and the heady flavour of this crude desi sweetener can’t be matched by
candies that kids crave for nowadays.
Khejur gur or nolen gurer payesh (kheer made
with nalen gur), nolen gurer pathishapta, nariyel naru made of gur
are the sweet delicacies mom makes every winter. I still wait in the kitchen to
taste the sweet, warm patishapta as my mom takes it off the tawa. Unfortunately,
not many people make patishapta at home anymore and those available in
sweet shops just don’t taste the same. But I do love nolen gurer sandesh
and roshogolla and other sweets made of nolen gur that sweet
shops across Bengal are flooded with. In Delhi you can visit the Bengali sweet
shops in CR Park for nolen gur delicacies.
When I visited my Uncle in Chandigarh as a child, my aunt
gave me small piece of gur after lunch. Gur helps with digestion
so Punjabis have gur after meal, I was told. Later I sampled delicious gur
ke parantha. Not just in Bengal and Punjab, gur is popular across India.
Maharashtra is the largest producer and consumer of gur, I recently read in
Wiki. In Maharashtra, during Makar Sankranti, a dessert called tilgul (sesame
seed candy) is prepared with gur. In Gujarat,
gur is known as gôḷ and is used during Makar Sankranti
for similar preparation called tal na ladu or tal
sankli. In rural Maharashtra and Karnataka, water and a piece of gur
are given to a person coming home after working under hot sun. Gujratis also
make laddus with wheat flour and gur and famous Marathi Puran Poli
uses gur. Of course, we are all familiar with gur ki patti, gur
ke gajak, moya made with gur and other desi healthy and tasty
And gur is not just
tasty, it has many health benefits. It prevents constipation, boosts immunity,
detoxes liver, purifies blood, helps in digestion to list a few. However, like
most desi delicacies, gur is not glamourous enough to appeal to the
younger lot. A kid today will probably not even look at gur, let alone
relish it. We Indians somehow pick western dessert and dishes over traditional
Indian cuisine. Perhaps, gur is waiting to be discovered by a western
chef to make it a happening sweetener.
Once upon a time she was my constant companion. I wouldn’t
leave home without her. Whether going to school in the morning or
visiting neighbours in the evening, she would be neatly folded and pinned to my
dress or tugged in my skirt. We loved playing Rumal
Choras kids. When I started carrying fancy bags to
college, she found a special place in that bag. Life was unimaginable without
Sparking white, or in soothing pale shades of pink or blue,
with pretty flowers or little birds embroidered, honeycombed edges, Miss Hankie
and her friends were such a delight. I remember making my first little hankie when
I was in 4th standard. SUPW (Socially Useful Productive Work) was a
compulsory subject in school then. With such excitement and love I hemmed the
edges of a small square pale blue cloth and embroidered a pink lotus in one
corner. After that I went on to make so many hankies, in different colours and
embroideries, some with my name stylishly embroidered. I was so proud of
carrying my own little hankies, sometimes perfumed, gently dabbing away sweat
or dust from the face and neck.
Miss Hankie was ever so romantic and enigmatic. Lovelorn
youth would often find solace in the sweet-smelling handkerchief of their lady
love. Boys would use hanky as ploy to strike a conversation with the person of
their interest. “Excuse me Miss, I think you dropped your hanky,” was corniest
pick up line ever. Miss Hankie found a special place in romantic Bollywood
movies as well – Reshmi Rumal, Kaali Topi Lal Rumal, where handkerchief played
such an important role. There are so many romantic movie scenes where the male
protagonist is seen languishing over a delicate little hanky of his beloved.
For the male counterpart of Miss. Hankie, it was all about chivalry. We have so often seen the protagonist offer his handkerchief with aplomb to a damsel in distress. The ‘resham ki rumal’ has always added to the appeal of the swashbuckling Hindi film hero. Remember Shammi Kapoor in “Sar par topi lal, haath me reshmi rumal hai tera kya kehena”
Sadly however, little Miss Hankie is now on the brink of
extinction, nudged away by the convenient tissues. Like most people of my
generation, I am guilty of making the switch to tissues. I have lost all my
little hankies; I just carry a pack of face tissue in my purse. There are hand
tissues and paper towels that have made hankies completely redundant. My mom,
however, still sticks to her hankies, finding them more reliable than the array
of tissues. Fortunately, male handkerchiefs have survived, they still find
place in most men’s pocket, though the charisma once associated with them is
Tissues may have brought in convenience, but unlike hankies
there’s nothing romantic about them. There was something personal about
hankies, reflecting so strongly the personality of their owner – the touch, the
smell. Tissues on the other hand don’t have a distinct character, they are just
use and throw. And the idea of picking up a used tissue is quite repulsive, no
matter how beautiful or charming the user may be!
Joy Mitra, a leading designer and a dear friend, weaves magic with his anarkalis, lehangas, kurtas, dupattas and Indo-western wear. Most of all I love the saris that he designs. He takes the traditional Indian weaves like ajrakh, kalamkari or handprinted cotton and silk and turns them into masterpieces. Being a sari lover myself I decided to talk sari with Joy
you think about saris? Why do your work with saris?
When I say
sari, I mean drapes – the basic attire of the subcontinent that probably evolved
5000 years ago. We all know that very state has its own drape, its own way of
wearing sari. The modern way of draping sari evolved 100 years ago, made popular
by the women of the Tagore family. It’s a beautiful attire that complements the
Indian body type.
over the years we have seen a dip in the popularity of sari. There was a time
when Indian women flaunted sari. Even girls of senior schools and colleges
would wear sari, were encouraged to wear sari. This changed 80s onwards with
sari becoming just another outfit. And now I hardly see modern city women wearing
sari, it has been reduced to a costume for special occasions. There are various
reasons for this change. Modern city life doesn’t encourage sari. Many women
don’t know how to drape a sari anymore, western outfits are much easier to
wear. Therefore, it is important to first understand a sari, own a sari, fall
in love with it. Give sari a chance and you will see how much it can change
you, add to you.
But coming back to saris, they will always be there. The number of people wearing sari may vary, the number of sari lovers may rise or fall, but sari will never die.
seen 100-day sari challenge bringing back some excitement around draping a sari
always excitement around any movement, be it bringing back the handloom, or
planting more trees or saying no to plastic. We create excitement around things
or issues that we as a society want to push, to make them for relevant for the
time. Of course, there is a group of people who love sari, swear by sari and
want to wear a sari. They want to bring back excitement around saris, not only
because it’s a beautiful outfit but also to encourage our weavers. Our banarasi,
kanjivaram, ikat and tangail weavers. That is also our job as a society.
When you started, and I have seen you right from your first show, you used to make those beautiful cotton saris in ajrakh and kalamkari. I absolutely loved then, but then you stopped. So, it’s good to see you bring them back again. Can you tell me about your kind of saris, what makes them different?
I like working with traditional saris, I have a very earthy taste. I love these rustic Indian colours, natural dyes, Indian prints, block prints, kalamkaris and ajrakhs, these have always been my first love. Of course, I am also in the trade, in the business of selling garments so I keep changing and evolving and coming back. It’s a cycle. It’s not that I stopped, it’s just that I was not doing that many ajrakhs and kalamkaris for a while. I am back to ajrakhs, kalamkaris, sanganeri and bagh prints again because I genuinely love them.
a taker, especially in a place like Delhi where we see more georgettes and
That can be a challenge. I invest a lot of money in some cotton saris, I find them so beautiful. But most of my clients would say ‘that but that’s a cotton, why will I wear a cotton sari for a wedding or a festival?’ And the funny part is if I don’t tell them and a show a picture after I have done a shoot, they immediately want that sari. This psychology that cotton can’t be expensive, cotton can’t be worn to weddings annoys me. I work with chanderis, silks and georgettes as well. Each has its own appeal. But as a designer, I am more inclined towards silks and cottons.
different about the kind of work that you do with your saris, and the kind of
blouses you team up your saris with?
I need to
do something different, something that inspires me. However, I should be able
to sell my pieces as well, it’s a process. For me it’s not about being
different, it’s about making something truly beautiful, that’s all that
I am often asked ‘Is this in?’, ‘Is that out?’ ‘Should I buy that?’, again these questions upset me. For me, a garment is either beautiful or not. If I like something, I will like it even after 10 years unless my taste has changed completely. What is beautiful is always beautiful. You don’t go to Taj Mahal and say ‘Oh, Taj Mahal was so beautiful 10 years back now I have outgrown it.’ It will always remain beautiful. Especially the Indian weaves and textiles, they are timeless.
Another worry, a lot of these prints are replicated by digital printing, which of course is faster and cheaper, and more people can wear them. But the essence is dying. The whole process to make ajrakh sari takes 40 to 60 days – so many kinds of layering and dying. Digital machine replicates it in a day and that hurts me. That’s the reason why so many of these weavers are leaving their jobs, looking for other work. I feel it is our responsibility to promote these traditional textiles and prints. Sustainable fashion it’s not just about promoting cotton or certain fabrics or a craft. It’s more challenging, it’s about sustaining the society, this whole ecosystem of weavers and dyers, all of us have to work towards it.
has a very strong tradition of saris from tant to baluchari. But you don’t work
with those saris?
I do, I work with these saris from time to time. Maybe if you come next month you will see many tangails and balucharis. I love these saris.
people feel balucharis are not in vogue, and I feel sad about it. Any
particular reason for that?
see the real balucharis anymore. The whole palla and border of a real baluchari
would tell a story from Ramayana, Mahabharata or Panchatantra. It was not a
repeat border, the whole sari had different patterns depicting a story. Thus,
weaving a baluchari took a long time and making it a very expensive affair.
looks almost like a banarasi, just that banarasi uses more zari while baluchari
is more resham. Both these saris come from the Indo Gangetic plane. Banarasi is
woven near Banaras, then comes the famous bhagalpuri silks and cottons from
Bhagalpur. Further down in Bishnupur where balucharis are woven and then you
have the dhakais and jamdanis of Bangladesh. The whole belt is rich with
variety of weaves and textiles that vary with changing atmosphere and culture.
were too expensive and the dazzle of benarasi was much more making them a popular
choice. Baluchari was made popular by the rulers of Bengal, but this beautiful
sari somehow got lost and is still dwindling. Also, baluchari appeals to a
certain taste and that’s another problem, you have to understand a Baluchari.
It’s like a paithani, a very expensive and a beautiful weave that not everybody
would like to own. Or a real kanjivaram with gold work. Sadly, there are not
many takers for these saris. People are going for digital, from pure to
artificial, so these real saris and the real crafts are dying
remember our mothers had 4 to 5 expensive saris that they would wear for all
occasions. Now you need a different outfit for every function.
That culture has died, and that’s not just for sari, that’s for all outfits. Our life is like Facebook, we constantly need to put something new. We can’t tell the world we have the same sari. We are fishing for something new to post every day. And that’s why we opt for those easy, faster and cheaper variants. It’s like a fast-food culture, it’s a fast-food lifestyle
still have sari lovers
There will always
be, though the number may have reduced over the years. Maybe lesser women are
wearing saris now due to financial or cultural reasons, or just practicality. But
sari will never die
who inspired you to do sari, or you love to see in sari.
I am from Bengal; I have seen my grandmothers and mother wear the best of saris and that’s how I developed a taste for sari. The range and the variety of saris that we have are just fabulous. Even today when a client comes to me with an old traditional sari and asks me to highlight it or do some work on it, I shy away. They are so beautiful. I ask them to keep them as they are and pass them to the next generation. I want more people to love sari.
with your saris will revive that love
I hope I do more saris, all kinds of saris not just handloom. Every sari looks different on different body types. I want people to experiment more with sari and drapes. It could be a cotton sari, silk or georgette, start wearing saris, start developing a taste for this beautiful drape
drape is beautiful. And of course, being a bong, I like the Bengali way of
wearing a sari. I have used this drape in many of my shows. I find it very
beautiful and elegant, effortlessly sexy.
Joy, I hope more women start wearing saris after reading this interview.
I was a college girl once, almost two decades back when life was all bright and chirpy, everything seemed possible, the world was buzzing with the promise of a rosy future. After finishing school, I joined the Women’s College in Agartala to study English literature. Not my first choice though. I wanted to become an engineer, leave Agartala for a top-rated Engineering college, but didn’t study hard enough for it. I assumed it would just happen, so naturally, I didn’t make the cut. I was firmly told by my father that he wasn’t going to pay for my studies in any second-grade institution, might as well stay back in Agartala and focus on doing well in graduation.
was very upset with the developments, but I also changed gears quickly, decided
to study literature instead of science and fortunately got over the setback
soon. I had a knack for literature, and I enjoyed reading poetry or discussing
postmodern theory better than scientific theorems. I came across a few
brilliant teachers or mentors who further honed my appreciation for literature.
I also made some excellent friends who have remained good friends over so many
years. My disastrous performance in class 12 boards pushed me to make the most
of my graduating years and I did manage to do well. I also learnt an important
lesson, of never taking anything for granted, things just don’t happen, you must
work very hard to make them happen.
back then in Agartala, was very different from college now. We would
conservatively dress in long skirts or salwar kameez to college. Some girls
even wore sari. Short skirts, even jeans were unthinkable in Agartala in those
days. In plaited hair and attire approved by moms, we were the cool college
girls. Happy, carefree, working hard, with many so dreams and ambitions, I
still look back fondly to those days. We were nothing like the kwel
college kids of today, with their fashionable skimpy clothes and latest
gadgets, but that didn’t seem to matter at all.
still remember my first day in Women’s College, finding my way to the 1st year
English literature classroom with no familiar faces around. I was the only one
from my batch who opted for English literature after plus two. I wasn’t feeling
great, I was still smarting for not being able to take up engineering, blaming casual
attitude for my poor show. But once I sat in the class friendly faces smiled at
me. My new friends made every day in college so much fun. We would hang around
in the college canteen, go for tuitions together. I grew especially close to
Aditi and Piyali, a friendship that we cherish to this day. Walking together in
scenic College Tila were we would go for tuitions, dressing up for college
festivals and special occasions, picnics, those happy days when life seemed so
During my college days, I actually started taking interest in studies, I enjoyed the lectures as much as the other activities. I was fortunate to have had teachers’ and mentors who have kept my love for literature alive in me to this day. I would particularly look forward to the sessions with Rupak da, who was a PhD scholar then, helping us with a few papers. Those endless discussions and debates, different perspectives to the same poem or literary characters were so stimulating. He encouraged me to read, to be creative. He probably believed in me more than I did and maybe that encouraged me to start writing after so many years. I started writing for myself that shaped into this blog. It may not be literary or intellectual but writing gives me an outlet, helps me look at things from different perspectives.
After post-graduation, I took up PR, a career that has nothing to do with literature. Though at times my job can get quite demanding, leaving me little time to read, I keep turning to literature whenever I can. There’s a part of me that that craves to get back to literary pursuits, another me that so enjoys the challenges of my profession!
While catching up with my friend over Saturday lunch I found her little daughter busy at work. “What are you doing?”, I asked nine-year-old Prapti busy cutting coloured papers in shape of flowers. “I am making rakhi for bhaiya and dadu,” she replied excitedly with a twinkle in her eyes. My friend smiled, “She loves making things, so I thought I would encourage her to make rakhis.” With the help of her mom, Prapti made beautiful rakhis. “This is for dadu and this one for bhaiya,” she said smiling happily. “And Mamma you and Papa have to come to my school on 14th,” she added in the same breath. Independence Day celebrations in the school that she was participating, in I was told.
While catching up with my friend over Saturday lunch
It was my turn to be quizzed then, “Do you know who designed our national flag? What does colour green in our flag stand for?” Of course, I didn’t know. I tried to look at my phone stealthily to google the answers. “No, no you can’t google. Papa did that too and that’s cheating,” came the sweet retort. “Ok Prapti, I don’t remember,” I admitted. “Our national flag was designed by Pingali Venkayya, and green stands for growth, saffron symbolizes strength and white peace,” said Prapti with a proud smile. Immediately after the quiz session she turned to her mom and pleaded with all cuteness she could muster, “Mamma can I please put mehandi for rakhi?”.
Looking at Prapti, brimming with excitement for Rakhi and Independence Day, (both on the same day this year so double whammy for her), I tried to remember the days when I was as excited about festivals. Nowadays, festivals mean a few extra hours of precious morning slumber on a weekday., “Mid-week holiday, yay!!”, everything else can follow. On Rakhi I would get up early enough though to cook lunch for my cousins like I do every year. It’s always a fun, relaxed family lunch, something that we look forward to. An occasion to meet in our otherwise busy life and that does make Rakhi special. There would be tying rakhi, exchanging gifts etc. Though it comes nowhere close to the exuberance of Prapti, preparing for Rakhi days ahead, the love and the effort that goes behind each rakhi she makes.
For all my
patriotism and love for my country, I don’t remember when I last attended a
flag hoisting ceremony on Independence Day. I don’t even bother to switch on
the TV now, just happily sleep through it. Yet there was a time when out of
excitement I would hardly get any sleep on the night before Aug 15th. For we
would join our father to his office for the Independence celebrations. My
father would hoist the national flag, give a brief speech to his staff and we
would salute the national flag and stand in attention to sing the national
anthem. What a proud moment that was! After that, we were given snacks and
sweets as refreshments. Those simple snacks tasted so delicious. As I grew up,
moved out of home, I somehow left behind that excitement that comes with
Independence Day or any festival for that matter!
Prapti, dancing around in excitement, reminded me of what I have forgotten, how
much I have left behind!
Black & White Westin or EC TV, chilled lemonade with ice
cubes from 165 litre Kelvinator refrigerator & a loud telephone that
brought the house running towards it the moment it rang. Yes, there was a time
when these were the only household gadgets (if I may term them so), that came
with a huge aspirational value. If you had all these three items at home, you
could consider yourself to have arrived in life. There wasn’t much to aspire
for, except maybe a scooter. Owning a car – an Ambassador or a Fiat was not
very common in those days. Only very few affluent people had a car and the rest
didn’t even complain about not owning one. That was the world I
grew up in!
I remember smiling proudly after my father brought home black
& white EC TV just before the Asian Games, Asiad 86 was it? I was very
little then, had no understanding of sport but would watch the games with the
whole neighbourhood anyway. As ours was one of the few houses in the neighbourhood
with a television, next-door neighbours would drop in everyday to watch the
games. My parents put extra chairs in the drawing-room, spread a chatai on the
floor to accommodate as many people as possible. Neighbours and friends were
more than welcome to come over watch the Asian Games, or Chitrahaar or weekend
movies later. Television was not 24X7 then. We would switch on the TV and wait
for the legendary Doordarshan
opening tunes and for the programmes to follow. Our TV watching hours were
rationed of course. We were only allowed to watch cartoons and a few shows that
our mother thought apt. I would strain my ears from the study table, sometimes
peek through the curtains, trying to catch a glimpse of Chitrahaar or weekend
movies that mother would watch with neighbourhood aunties.
Any talk about TV is incomplete without the antennae, fixed
on a tall pole on the rooftop. It was a common sight to see somebody perched on
a tree moving around the antennae while somebody would be screaming out of the window,
“It’s clear now. No, no, turn it left, little to the right.” That was us trying
to catch a better signal for the television! The TV did not come with a remote then,
but with a stand or a trolley and a bulky wooden TV cabinet with shutter. Once
turned off the shutter would be closed and sometimes covered with an
In those days, people would often borrow a bottle of chilled
water or ice cubes from our good old Kelvinator, placed on a stand with a
fridge top, and the handle of the refrigerator wrapped in a towel. Neighbours
sometimes left a bottle of water in the fridge to chill. They would drop in
often to make or receive calls. The telephone was generally kept in the corner
of the living room, carefully covered with a crocheted or embroidered piece of
cloth. My mom would entertain neighbours with tea and snacks whenever they
dropped in to watch TV or make a call. Our next-door neighbours would drop in
after dinner and stay back till late waiting for their daughter, studying
medicine in Delhi, to call. The concept of privacy was somewhat different then;
nobody would bother to leave the room when someone was making or receiving a
phone call. Maybe in that world we were warmer, generous and more open. We had
fewer qualms about reaching out to people.
I grew in that world, cherishing the orange Parle G lozenge
or Poppins, happily blowing the bubble gum and occasionally indulging in Five
Star or Double Decker or Amul Milk Chocolate.
Maggi was the most sought-after fast food and evening snacks were muri
makha or chire bhaja or some such home-made stuff. Pocket money was
always restricted to five or ten bucks and always accounted for. We devoured on
Phantom, Mandrake, Archie’s, Tin Tin and Chacha Chaudhary. We also read Famous
Five, Hardy Boys, Nancy Drew and later Sydney Sheldon. I remember when I was in
school, Ananda Bazaar Patrika carried a comic strip of Phantom (in Bangla of
course) that I would religiously read every day. The amazing world of Phantom
and his beautiful wife Diana!
Seems like yesterday. I can still hear the phone ring and
the faint melodies of Chitrahaar. I can visualize my sisters and me rustling
around in our velvet maxi skirts. But then when I came across a WhatsApp
message ‘on some things our generation can identify with’, I realized it’s been
so long, and we have left so much behind!!
The house with the thatched roof, with the old bakul tree by the gate is my home. I would pick up fragrant bakul flowers carpeting the ground below the tree and string them into garlands. Those garlands would adorn me and my little dolls on lazy summer afternoons.
In the fading light of the dusk I would run around the huge courtyard and play hide & seek with my siblings or just skip around happily. Many a night, I would sit quietly in the courtyard enjoying the calming silence. Many a rainy afternoon, pitter pater rain on the thatched roof would pour music in my ears. The cooing cuckoos in the morning, the buzzing bees, the humming cicadas at night filled my days and night with joyful tunes.
The thatched roof and the bakul tree gave way to a beautiful concrete house. With brand-new rooms in soothing hues the concrete house is my home. I would sit on my table by the window and gaze at the world outside with dreamy eyes. Lose myself in my very own world of stories and tales and poetry. Stubborn dream of conquering the world would keep me up at nights. I would spend many a quiet nocturnal hour on the terrace trying to catch a falling star or just gaze in wonder at the infinite sparkling jewels of the night.
The happy cocoon of my home that gave wings to many dreams.
Ambition fired me, the world beckoned me, off I flew to explore the unknown.
With fluttering wings and dancing heart, scared and excited all at once, I
buzzed into the bold new world.
It was exhilarating, it was new, it was freedom, it was fun!
It was long hard nights, it was me taking care of me, it was responsibilities,
it was challenge!
Making my way through the opportunities and obstacles I made
my home in a cute little one room set. With a mattress for bed and no air
conditioning, it gave me cool comfort on hot summer nights. The lone blanket
would keep me warm on long winter nights. I cooked my first delicious meal in
the kitchen with sparse utensils. I dreamt of love, I fell in love, I broke my
heart, I healed with love. Girly chats and sleepovers, late night movies or talking
about dream lovers…
Fire in the belly, aspirations, desire to excel kept me flying. At times my wings were clipped by aching heart, snarky colleagues, meanness, rudeness and pettiness all around. But there was no keeping down the happy and wild dreams. The harder it got the higher they soared. They pushed me ahead on days I wanted to turn back or stop and take a break from the mad bad world.
The many hues of the mad mad world took my breath away. The
bright colours of love, life and laughter; the darker shades of melancholy and
failure; the perplexing greys that defied all definition. I faltered, I
stumbled, I fell. I was confused, I was upset, I was depressed. But most of all
I was challenged. I picked my hues cautiously; I painted my rainbow with many shades
I made a new home with a comfortable bed and brand-new
furniture. Paintings and masks adorn my walls. Tick Tock clocks tell me the
story of fleeting time. Sitting snugly on my new bed I miss my old homes. The
starry nights, the rainy afternoons, the singing cuckoos, the buzzing bees. The
hot summer nights that fired my dreams. The anguish, the impediments that kept
Maybe one day I will leave my new home for another home, far away in a softer world where I can sit and reminiscence my many homes. Ponder upon what I have won and what I have lost, do they really matter at all? The many stories that I scripted, the lives that I have lived, because at the end living is all that matters…
Temperatures are soaring, and the soft drinks and cold drinks makers are making mullah, wooing millennial with fancy ad campaigns. Be it Coke, Pepsi, Limca, Fanta, Thumbs Up, Tang or Paper Boat they come with the promise to quench your thirst, beat the heat, add style to your swag and so much more. Some of them can even transform us into superheroes by helping us achieve the impossible. And then there are fruit juices from Tropicana and Real which are supposed to be healthy as well, if the ads are to be believed. Kids crave for Cola’s and Tang and synthetic juices. Teenagers hang out with cans of aerated drinks; these are in vogue you see!
Whatever happened to good old nimbu paani or lemonade. When we were young that was our only treat on hot summer afternoons, sweet and slightly tangy nimbu paani or lebur shorbot (as we Bengalis’ like to call it). In Bengal, we get a different variety of nimbu (lemon), mildly fragrant gandharaj lebu that add aromatic flavour to the nimbu paani. We had gandharaj lebu plant in our courtyard then and nimbus were in abundance. In summer, mom used to keep sugar syrup in a glass bottle in the fridge. As soon as we were back from school, we were given a cool glass of lebur shorbot with a spoon of sugar syrup and a pinch of black salt. Sometimes she added roasted jeera powder for variety. It was both refreshing and healthy. But there was something amazing about the lebur shorbot that Didun (my naani) used to make, I am yet to taste a drink so delicious!
We were occasionally allowed to have
orange squash, orange concentrate that used to come in a 1-litre glass bottle.
One-tenth orange squash mixed in cold water was a real treat for us. A few
cubes of ice would make it even better. You would find a bottle of Kisan orange
squash in every house in summers. Roof Afza was available too, but we Bengalis
are not very fond of that drink.
Bel Pana – a drink from of the pulp of Bel
or wood apple, is yet another summer drink I so crave for. It involves
straining the pulp of Bel mixing it with curd or cold milk. My mother
would also add jaggery to it. The process is slightly complicated, but Bel
Pana is delicious and one of the most nutritious drinks that you can team
with your breakfast on a hot day. When I was a little girl, fruit sellers from nearby
villages would sometimes get Palm juice or Tal Ras in an earthen pot
early morning. The giddy sweetness of the palm juice was a rare treat that we
would look forward to on Sunday mornings. There was always homemade aam
panna and lassi and cold coffee and fresh coconut water. We had a
coconut tree in our courtyard with the sweetest tender coconut water.
No matter how much Paper Boat tries,
their aam panna or thandai will never match the homemade flavours
of my mom and Didun! Nimbus is nowhere close to lebur shorbot and
Homemade’s aam panna couldn’t be further away from it. The aerated soft
drinks don’t even quench my thirst, forget about adding to my style quotient.
Instead, I use my superpowers to recreate the magic of Didun’s lebur shorbot
and mom’s aam panna. Couldn’t find Bel in Gurgaon or would love
trying Bel Pana.